“the next 30 days will pass, whether you like it or not.”
“the next 30 days will pass, whether you like it or not.”
The quote I heard today, “never try to be better than someone else” was awesome, and hit me hard. A former UCLA basketball coach said it in a video i watched. The moment I heard it, I was a little “weirded” out by it, because my first reaction was that he was saying don’t compete. Which would be crap because competition drives success. But that was not what he was saying at all. He went on to talk about how you should never, ever focus on anything but yourself and how much effort you put in. All you can do in a game, or life for that matter, is to give it your and compete against your own best self. Everyone has different talents, different approaches and different ways to act on beliefs, so you should never be competing against someone else. Only focus on what you can do and do it the best of your ability.
Example? Let’s say that I was competing for a starting job on a baseball team, and my competitor had the edge on the defensive side. Hes was better. And if I focused on being better than him at defense, I would likely under perform and mess up. I would get out of my own mechanics and the things that got me to where I am, and be focussed on beating him. And if I ended up doing worse than him at defense, it would likely aggravate me and cause my mind to steer away from my overall focus and fail at other things. But if I had just competed against my own best self, and had done everything I know I can to the best of my ability… The outcome would be much better because I wouldn’t be worried about anything else but my self. If you gave it your all in something, and knew that you did the very best in everything that was asked of you, that’s all anyone could ask of you. That’s all you can do.
So instead of competing against someone else’s best, compete against your best. Push yourself from within. Do not let outside forces cloud your mind! “Never try to be better than someone else,” only try to be better than your best. Stay within yourself. Compete. You are your best competition. Compete against your own best self.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.” -Henry Ford
Think about the following questions. Why doesn’t everyone believe in themselves fully? Why is it so common for people to shy away from what they truly want and believe because they don’t have this magic sense of “confidence?” Well here is my answer. Read the quote above again…
Taking what Henry Ford says, we can assume that the people who think they “can’t” (can’t is the worst word in the english language, by the way) do something, don’t necessarily have little confidence, but they lack in the courageous portion of life. Why aren’t they courageous? Who knows, being courageous is something less common than just having self-confidence. But, here’s the kicker, being courageous and having confidence go hand in hand. So… If the same person who thinks they can’t do something because they aren’t courageous enough, they can focus their energy into their confidence, and they will exceed their expectations on what they can do. Well what if they have no confidence? In my opinion there is no reason to have no self-confidence. Having confidence is this meaningless word that we use to separate people from one another. I say meaningless because everyone has the confidence inside them, all of the time. How? Because every single one of us (which is now 7,055,222,832 people) is different. And just because we are different, people lose their grasp on their personal confidence. Sadly this is because of our world and society, we all have this vision of some perfect dude/dudet and what he/she looks like. This is crap. We need to open up our minds to everyone in this world. We need to be thankful that everyone is different and at least just e okay with it. And for the people who have lost a strong hold on their confidence… Get back in there and get a grip. People will look up to you for being yourself, and being something that is incredible to them. Being someone else, or being forever shy is not the way to do this. Show your confidence, live with your confidence and BELIEVE in yourself. It’s not that people don’t have confidence, it’s just that they have lost their grasp on it. Example? Here you go… When we were all little toddlers and didn’t think before doing anything (sometimes this was cute, sometimes this was worth a timeout,) we had all of the confidence in the world. Because we didn’t think about what others were thinking, we didn’t know any better! Society hadn’t brainwashed our narrow minds yet. Open up your mind, whether you’re confident or not, and see that we are all different. But be enthralled by the fact that we are all different. Everyone has confidence, but only some choose to keep their grasp on it through the process of growing up. Being confident can open up more roads than you can imagine. You will light up rooms when you walk in. The right people will pay attention to you. You will have more fun in everything. You will be more honest and upfront. But most of all, you will find that your cheeks will be very sore. Smiling will be something you’ll do everyday.
Be confident, be true to yourself, and let people see and experience who you are. Don’t be bothered by the people who think differently about you or try to bring you down. They just aren’t going to be on your path to success. Stay on your true path and never let go. I’ll leave you with a quote from a song to think about.
“Follow your heart to the water
Fill your pockets with stone
Throw your arms around me
Never let me go” – Parkway Drive
This quote is saying how you need to put your all, your life, your mind, your soul, into the things you love. And never let them go if they are your true passions. With pockets full of stone, you will sink in to the water of your passion and risk everything. Do it. Be confident. Achieve it all.
(video shared from YouTube)
“If today were the last day of my life.”
This is a very powerful snippet of a speech given by a very powerful individual. My father used to tell me before every little league game, “play the game today like it’s you last, because you never know when that will come true.” I’ve tried to live by this everyday in baseball, and I think it’s important to remember for life in general. We aren’t guaranteed anything in life, not even the next five minutes. Do the things you want to do, tell people how you feel about them, don’t hide in the corner, and most of all, feed your passion. Be the person you want to be, life you days as if they are going to be your last.
When was the last time you set a goal? Big or small… Easy or difficult… Think about it for a second. If you have come to realize that it’s been a while for you, make a goal! Think about anything in your life you want to achieve. Maybe it’s “I want to get up on time tomorrow morning and get my day started.” Think about it, write it down and read it aloud to yourself. Let your brain work and find ways to do things you want to do. I say this a lot, but the mind is a very powerful tool in life. Utilize it, know it, understand it and let it achieve! So… After you read this, set a goal. It can be a huge life long goal, or a simple goal that will be accomplished by dinner, but either way… Write one down! I’m challenging you! Let me know what goals you make! COMMENT!
Video shared from YouTube.
Awesome video! Trust yourself. Trust your power. Believe in yourself. Never ever, give up. Always have a hunger to push forward!
It’s important to remember that rewarding yourself is an essential part in your part to success. Don’t be a drill sergeant to yourself everyday, take sometime and give yourself something that makes you happy, because you’ve worked so hard! This morning I had to do my track workout, I wanted to reward myself after. When you have a reward to look forward to, you can get through things easier and with a better attitude, which is key. The reward I was going to give to myself was a nice hot tub relaxation time afterwards. Knowing this During my morning workout made it easier to focus, because I knew that my post-workout activity would make it all worth it.
Obviously, there are ultimate rewards when you’re reaching a goal, like the main goal(s) and short-term goals along the way. But, it’s good to allow yourself to have small rewards on the road to success. Whether it’s a piece of chocolate after a good week of healthy eating, a new pair of jeans because you’ve been doing great at workout lately, a nice nap after a hard week of working your butt off or a hot tub session… Anything that’s small and makes you happy will help you achieve your greatest dreams!
Do it today! create a small goal for yourself, and have a small reward WHEN (not “if”) you get it done. You’ll see how easy it is to complete the goal! GO!