I am laying in my bed after closing both my bathroom and closet doors because something in my head is still afraid of what could be waiting in the dark rooms. Fear makes me do it. Fear of something I created in my head. And this got me thinking…
When we fear something in our lives, whether it’s speaking in front of a group, making a decision, afraid of that shark that’s going to get you in the water, or the ghost in my closet… Whatever it is in our lives that we fear, all comes from our head. Sure there might be some reasonable facts or past experiences that can instil this fear in our minds, but it’s still our minds that ultimately creates it. When someone is afraid of going up on stage speaking to a crowd, all they see in their head is them screwing up their speech, stuttering and slurring words, sweating and just being awkward. When you create images in your head, your body now knows how to react to that certain situation you thought of. So more than likely when that person goes up on stage to give their speech, their visions will become a reality. Not good.
Instead of embracing fear, try to look beyond it. Pay no attention to it. Think about how it would feel to go up on stage and give the best speech anyone has seen. Imagine the confidence you can have. Imagine anything positive that can happen. Let your mind wander with positive energy and envision a confident you. Like for me… I need to walk into the dark room and smile because there is nothing in there but my 5-year-old mind. Fear can hold us back from anything it wants to. Maybe tomorrow try something that you are afraid to do, big or small, and just do it with confidence. Don’t be your own limiter. Allow success to come to you!
This is an amazing video of lady with heavy borders and obstacles in her path to success. She met those obstacles head on and overcame them to the fullest degree. There are two very important things to take away from this video. One is to realize there are a lot of people out there who go through a lot worse things than you do, and still make it to the places they want to go. It amazes me how often we complain or feel bad for ourselves when times get tough and we think we have it hard. And then we give up. We need to watch videos like this. The second thing to take away from this is that you shouldn’t have to go through what she went through to realize your potential in life! Bless her heart for doing all she has done, but people, learn from her leadership and realize we are all human. We can all do the things we desire. Don’t wait around for something to come up. Make your opportunities in life. Create your own luck. And most of all, notice the people around us that go through, and have gone through things we will never even taste in life. They are our true heroes. Don’t give up. “It’s not about breaking down borders, it’s about pushing off of them.”
If you’ve never explored around on TED.com and looked through the abundance of amazing videos they have, please do it today. This is one is a short video that has a lot of meaning! Why is it that people view leadership as “changing the world?” As Drew tells his story, we understand that leadership isn’t always that big of a thing. It’s about being confident, courageous, honest and true to yourself. Being a leader can be as simple as being a person that one other person looks up to. Watch this video and go to the website… Lots to watch!
“The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled.”
Take a moment and think about this quote. Your mind isn’t made to be filled with meaningless bits of nonsense… It is tailored to your personality and is waiting to burst into flame with knowledge and passion. Feed your mind. Give it what it needs, get the sludge out. LIVE WITH PASSION!